We at GriefNet are so sorry you have had a loss that has brought you
here, but we welcome you to this community of people who understand
grief and bereavement.
- HOW TO GET HELP: GriefNet has carefully thought-out
guidelines, developed by the staff since we began in 1994. Our guidelines
protect members who are raw and vulnerable with the grief that has
brought them here. All GriefNet groups are monitored by one of our
staff and gentle reminders are sent members who overlook these guidelines.
If you have any concerns about interpersonal interactions, issues being
discussed, or individual members, write to your group monitor or Cendra,
Our primary guideline is that we be polite and respectful in responses
to other subscribers. Rudeness or attacks on other people here
are not acceptable.
KEEP THIS PRIVATE
Messages to this group must be kept private and confidential. Do
not share messages with someone outside of this list without
the author's permission. This helps make this group safer for
people to find comfort and to heal.
STAY ON TOPIC
Please restrict topics to those for which the list has been created,
which is your grief. Discussions of unrelated issues often confuse
new members just joining. Spam, chain letters, forwarded email,
and letters requesting replies to off-list addresses are not
allowed on any GriefNet lists. They cause our mail system to
clog up and do not usually serve the purpose that we are here
for: to share our grief and tell our own stories.
NO RELIGIOUS AND SPIRITUAL DISCUSSIONS
Please do not discuss religion or
spiritual beliefs. Our membership
is composed of people from all over
the world who embrace a variety
of faiths and religious beliefs.
What comforts one person may greatly
offend another. Discussion or mention of mediums in any way is expressly forbidden.
We do have two groups
for discussion of religious or spiritual
beliefs, which you may join by sending
a request to .
Humor in the form of jokes can be helpful but also possibly destructive,
especially when the joke centers on controversial topics, uses
overt sexual language, makes fun of someone because of their
ethnic background, their sexual orientation, their religious
or political affiliation, and probably numerous other antisocial
themes. Use extreme discretion and post sparingly, please.
LIMIT CONTACT WITH OTHER MEMBERS TO GROUP MAIL
Do not contact another member outside of the group mail.
GriefNet’s safety lies in the anonymity of its members.
The internet is not a safe place and our groups are targets for
predators of all sorts. We do our best screen new members,
but we are not able to see nefarious intent nor whether someone
would be tempted by opportunity. Prior to the technological
ability to strip email addresses and names from the email
headers, there were occasional dreadful things that happened
between members who contacted each other outside of the group.
We still regret deeply our inability to have prevented them.
Violation of this guideline is grounds for removal.
NO IDENTIFYING INFORMATION
Remember also that the Internet is not a totally secure environment.
There are many people on the Internet using it for monetary gain
or self-glorification and sometimes they will, despite our best
efforts, invade our space. We cannot keep all of the offenders
out, but we will deal with them appropriately when they are detected.
Meanwhile, never give out your personal information to a group.
Do not share your phone number, your address, or anything else
you would not wish anyone and everyone to know. Never hesitate
to contact any of the GriefNet staff if you have concerns about
someone in the group.
NO MENTIONING PRODUCTS, PRACTITIONERS, OTHER SITES
Products or services of any sort may not be discussed or recommended, either
by supplying web addresses or by describing in detail the commercial venture.
This includes recommending individual practitioners or products of any sort,
or directing people to other internet sites.
MAKING SURE YOUR MAIL GOES THROUGH
Please do not use multiple addresses when sending messages to the
groups, even if you plan to send the same message to other groups
of which you are a member. Send each message separately. If you
send messages to a number of people or groups at once, they may
get stuck in our server or lost. Do not Cc: or Bcc: anyone when
writing to the group.
NO ATTACHMENTS OR HTML
Attachments are not permitted, as they can easily contain a computer
virus, which can totally disable your computer. The same goes
for any form of graphics, including messages in html. Use plain
EMAIL AND UNSUBSCRIBING HELP
If you have any problem with sending
or receiving mail, or difficulty
If you continue to have difficulties,
please write to our Subscriptions
Thank you for your attention to these guidelines, and thank you for being
an important part of GriefNet.