THE MOURNER'S BILL OF RIGHTS.

                  by Alan Wolfelt

 

1.  You have the right to experience your own unique grief.

2.  You have the right to talk about your grief.

3.  You have the right to feel a multitude of emotions.

4.  You have the right to be tolerant of your physical and emotional limits.

5.  You have the right to experience "griefbursts".  (Sometimes, out of nowhere,

	a powerful surge of grief may overcome you.  This can be frightening, but is

	normal and natural.  Find someone who understands and will let you talk it 

	out.)

6.  You have the right to make use of 'ritual'.

7.  You have the right to embrace your spirituality.

8.  You have the right to search for meaning.

9.  You have the right to treasure your memories.

10. You have the right to move toward your grief and heal (Reconciling your

	grief will not happen quickly.  Remember, grief is a process, not an event.

	Be patient and tolerant with yourself and avoid people who are important and

	intolerant with you.  Neither you nor those around you must forget that the

	death of someone loved changes your life forever.)