Continuing Bonds: New Understandings of Grief
Dennis Kloss, Phyliss Silverman, Steven Nickman, Editors
Synopsis
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This important new book gives voice to an emerging consensus among bereavement
scholars that our understanding of the grief process needs to be expanded. The
dominant twentieth-century model holds that the function of grief and mourning
is to cut bonds with the deceased, thereby freeing the survivor to reinvest in
new relationships in the present. Pathological grief has been defined in terms
of holding on to the deceased. Close examination reveals that this model is based
more on the cultural values of modernity than on any substantial data of what
people actually do. Presenting data from several populations, twenty-two authors - among
the most respected in their fields - demonstrate that the healthy resolution of grief
enables one to maintain a continuing bond with the deceased. Despite cultural disapproval
and lack of validation by professionals, survivors find places for the dead in their ongoing
lives and even in their communities. Such bonds are not denial; the deceased can provide
resources for enriched functioning in the present.
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