Cry of Pain: Understanding Suicide and Self-Harm
J. Mark G. Williams
Synopsis
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My aim in writing "Cry of Pain" was to bring together the most recent research and
scholarship on the subject of suicide and attempted suicide. It was written for those health
professionals and volunteers who help people who are suicidal and despairing. As such, the book
would, I hoped, be helpful to students in the health and social sciences and to those undergoing
training as doctors, nurses and related professions. But I also wanted to write a book that might
be found helpful to those who have been suicidal or been bereaved by suicide, and who want now to
deepen their understanding of suicide. For there is much about suicide that presents a real and
often tragic puzzle to be solved by family and friends, by physicians and other professionals
involved with someone who has committed or attempted suicide. Why did they do it? Why did they
not see that there was help available? At the larger level, will a biological, sociological or
psychological explanation provide the best clue to suicidal behaviour? The book examines evidence
from all of these fields to gain a better understanding of what drives people to take such drastic
action. A central idea of the book is that suicide and attempted suicide are most often a cry of pain,
like the cry of an animal caught in a trap. The suicidal person is rendered helpless by things that
are happening around them and by their own mental anguish. Struggling to get free only seems to
make matters worse. The book deliberately moves away from seeing suicidal behaviour as a cry for
help, since such an explanation is so often used nowadays to dismiss such behaviour as unimportant.
The book starts by placing suicide in its historical context, including suicide in antiquity,
contrasting Greek and Roman stoic ideals of the freedom to kill oneself, with religious tradition
of self-murder as sin. It then moves on to examine differences between countries and within countries
over time, looking at the facts and figures to see how men and women of different nationalities,
ethnic groupings, ages and social classes differ in suicide risk. (These statistics may seem dry
and distant for those recently bereaved by suicide, and you should feel free to ignore them).
It considers 'rational suicide', euthanasia and martyrdom, and how serious self-harm can occur
either because there are too many reasons for dying, or because there are too few reasons for
living. It looks at some of the factors that may reduce the barriers for suicide, how television
and newspapers can cause an increase in such behaviour by showing or reporting suicide stories
which vulnerable people then imitate. It examines how biological, social and psychological theories
try to explain these phenomena. The 'Cry of Pain' idea draws things together, showing how
suicidal behaviour results from feelings of being trapped. Such a feeling triggers further negative
and self-destructive thinking that then lowers mood in a vicious downward spiral. Recent research
shows that a person's memory plays a pivotal role in this vicious spiral. This is due to the huge
influence that memory has on all aspects of personality. It is from memory that we get our sense
of self, a sense of being the same person through time. Our memory provides us with all the information
we ever have about ourselves, other people and how they see us. When biases and deficits occur in
memory, the whole world can become distorted, affecting a person's mood, the ability to solve
problems and to make plans for the future. This research has clear implications for how best to
help those who are feeling hopeless and suicidal, and these are spelled out in the final part of
the book. |