This book relates the personal stories of 18 mothers who have
lost adult children to accident, suicide, murder, and major illness.
The stories trace the similarities and the levels of grief and
bereavement over a time frame of from four months to thirty-five
years. The mothers range from 30 to 85 years of age. The lost
children were from 16 through 45 years of age. From the responses
to a common list of questions asked of over 75 survivor mothers,
stories were selected and transcribed.
The questions focused on changes in the grief and bereavement
process over time. The stories serve as a framework for a review
of prevailing theories of grief and bereavement. The book was
initiated for a variety of reasons: to offer a sense of camaraderie
and hope to other bereaved parents, to re-frame the losses as
continuing relationships, to provide tools of understanding to
professionals and friends who work with bereaved parents, and
to memorialize the lost children.